torsdag 9 februari 2017

23. Connection


23. Connection 
Idag snackar vi om ensamhet, böcker och en jäkla massa rekommendationer om diverse. Rekord i spridda ämnen men fortfarande ett samlat avsnitt. Den röda tråden är connection. '

Länkar till vår podd har ni här:
Du har har iTunes kan lyssna här: iTunes 
Du som har en iPhone: Podcastappen
Du har en Android eller liknande: Stitcher
Du som har en PC/ Vill lyssna via Webbläsare: Soundcloud

Här har ni en video + en länk rörande Hans Rosling:
http://www.ted.com/playlists/474/the_best_hans_rosling_talks_yo 



Här är de rekommendationer och tips vi slängde ut i podden:
  • Appen: Houseparty (grupp-video-konversationer).
  • Boken: One World. One Company. Med Fredrik Härén.
  • Boken: Natural Born Heroes. Med Christopher McDougall. 
  • Amazon UK. Nästan gratis böcker, man betalar bara för frakten! 
  • Pavlok. Det sinnessjuka armbandet som ger elstötar. https://succeeder.se/mental-prestation/pavlok/ 
  • Världens bästa cykelverkstad: http://www.leffescykel.se

Här är gåtorna vi körde i början av podden: 

Varför hittar man alltid det man letar efter på det sista stället man letar på ?
För sen slutar man ju leta 

Vem är mina föråldras son, men ändå inte min bror?
Jag själv 

Vad säger den engelska salladen när man öppnar kylskåpsdörren? 
Close the door, I’m dressing 

Utan det klarar du inget, med för mycket kommer du sannolikt inte heller klara något heller. 
Självförtroende. 

Fattiga har det, rika behöver det. Det kan göra dig stark, eller så knäcker det dig.
Motgångar 

Alla vill ha mer av det för att känna sig speciella, men ju mer av det du har - ju mindre speciell känner du dig. 
Kunskap 

Om du har mig, vill du dela mig. Om du delar mig - så har du inte mig längre. Vad är jag? 
En hemlighet 


Här är listan över de 10 saker du kan göra när du känner dig ensam: 
1. Don’t blame yourself in any way, shape, or form.
Trust me, it will only make you feel worse. Blaming yourself for how you feel is never skillful, productive, or kind. A host of causes and conditions have come together in your life to create this painful feeling. It’s not your fault.

2. Seek relief from a non-human “friend.”
There are lots of possibilities—a pet, comfort food, a favorite book or a nature show on TV, or even just sitting outside for a while. We can find solace in many things that ease the pain of loneliness. Experiment and see what helps you feel better.

3. Connect with a human friend if you can.
Think of someone who is always supportive or who simply makes you laugh, and give that person a call or send them an email. You may resist doing this at first because it can be hard to reach out to others when you’re feeling lonely. In my experience, however, it’s worth giving myself the little extra push that’s needed to contact someone I can count on.

4. Do something creative, no matter how simple.
It need not be earth-shatteringly creative. Try a coloring book or a jigsaw puzzle, make a collage, or experiment with needlework of some kind. Or think outside the box and come up with something that is fun and soothing for you to do.

5. Help someone in need.
Helping others eases loneliness because it makes us be less self-focused. It could be an elderly neighbor or someone on a social-media site who might benefit from a supportive comment.

6. Call to mind others who are feeling lonely and send them kind and compassionate thoughts.
Wishing well to others who are lonely creates a special connection between the two of you. Even more, when you realize that you’re not alone in your loneliness, you’ll feel less lonely. At least, that’s how this little practice works for me.

7. Visualize some place you’d like to be—a fun gathering, the seashore, a sporting event—and see if, just for a moment, you can feel happy for those who are there.
Feeling happy for others even when they’re doing what you wish you could do can make you feel as if you’re there with them, and that eases the pain of loneliness. Even if feeling happy for others only lasts a short time, it’s soothing and healing—and amazingly, it can even make you feel happy! (For a more detailed explanation of this practice, see my recent post, “Feeling Happy for Others Can Make You Happy.”)

8. Treat loneliness as an old friend who’s dropped in for a visit (despite not having received an invitation).
This is a way of not resisting how you’re feeling; resisting only makes you feel worse. Zen teacher Thich Nhat Hanh asks us to take care of our anger and other painful emotions. Making friends with how we feel is self-compassion in action. So take care of your loneliness as if it’s an old friend. Sometimes I say, “Hello, loneliness. I see you’ve come to visit again for a while.” When you let painful emotions into your heart with compassion, it disarms them and that takes away their sting. This eases your pain.

9. Remind yourself that life is not always fun, and that tomorrow is a new day.
Nobody gets their way all the time and—let’s face it—life isn’t always fun. This is true for everyone. The bottom line is that loneliness is one of those unpleasant moments in your life. That’s all it is. In the words of Rainer Maria Rilke, “No feeling is final.” If you can be patient with your loneliness, it’s likely that by tomorrow, it will have eased a bit. Then, the next day, it’s likely to have eased even more. All emotions are impermanent. They arise and pass, arise and pass.

10. Sing.
It’s almost impossible to feel lonely when you’re singing. I’ve tried it, and it works! Let your favorite singer keep you company as you sing along, karaoke style.

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